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Freedom is an idea that poets yearn for; that soldiers fight for. Yet, for most of us, it is an illusion that is only found at the end of the rainbow. Too many of us are haunted by our pasts, held in check by our family systems and inherited beliefs. Addictions chain us, and shame and self-centeredness enslave us here in America.

Much of modern psychology will tell us that if we change our thoughts and our actions, our feelings will follow. While there is some truth to that — especially in the short term; real, lasting change only occurs at a much deeper level.

Questions to ask yourself before you begin your search for a counselor: If I had to summarize why I want to go to counseling, what is the reason? What do I want to see change? (i.e. “I want to be happier?” Or, “I want a better marriage.”) It could be that you don’t know. That is ok, as long as you know that you don’t know. Have I seen a counselor in the past? What did I like or not like about them? What was the most helpful to me?